7 Facts About Sexual Fantasies
Statistics have made their way into the most intimate part of our life.
How great it would be if psychologists and sexologists left at least one area of human sexuality unexplored, covered with a veil of mystery and a veil of mystery?
But no! Only give free rein to psychologists and sexologists, so they dissect even the most intimate depths of the unconscious. So this time it happened: the victims of the research were sexual fantasies.
Dr. Justin Lemiller, the author of Tell Me What You Want, identified seven facts about sexual fantasies. He did this based on studies of the sexual behavior of 4,175 Americans of both genders in 50 states surveyed for the book. So, hello: seven facts about sexual fantasies.
Most Often, the Current Partner Appears in Fantasies.
If a person is lonely, his former partner. Which, of course, is weird. Isn't the whole point of fantasies about getting away from reality? Dr. Lehmiller stresses that yes, other people also appear in fantasies. But regular partners or former - much more often.
Most Popular Sex Fantasy - Threesome
Fantasy is the most popular, but upon closer examination, it turned out that everyone means different things by "threesome". Discrepancies in details: some of the Cam to Cam respondents prefer to be in the center of attention in such a fantasy, someone modestly speaks on an equal footing, someone imagines their partner in the place of one of the participants, someone, on the contrary, fantasizes about strangers.
Most Disappointing Fantasy Realized - Also Threesome
But this is curious: according to Dr. Lemiller, it is threesome sex that turns out to be the most frustrating experience at the end, when it turns from the category of fantasy into the category of reality. The specialist believes that the matter is in the ill-conceived scenario of threesome sex. No one really knows what to do and to whom to devote how much time. As a result, everyone disagrees a little or is even very disappointed.
Most People Change their Appearance or Personality in Sexual Fantasies.
Few imagine themselves exactly as they are in life. In this case, the changes depend on gender. So, men prefer in fantasies to imagine themselves with other genitals (we suspect that there are more genitals), and women change their figure. The changes concern not only appearance: women in their fantasies behave more dominantly, and men prefer to obey.
In fact, Male and Female Fantasies are not very Different.
We are used to stereotypes. One of them: men are cynical, women are romantic. But Dr. Lemiller hurries to dissuade us:
In general, many men play the same scenarios in fantasies as women, and vice versa. This means that women's fantasies are much more daring and varied, and men's ones are more emotionally intense than we used to think.
Few People Make their Sexual Fantasies Come True
Three-quarters of those surveyed told Dr. Lemiller that they constantly think about how to fulfill their sexual fantasies. At the same time, only every fourth respondent made some kind of effort for this. That is, there is still a huge gap between sexual fantasies and harsh reality. And given that most people's fantasies are their hidden desires, the previous sentence is a bit sad to read.
But there is good news as well. Most of those who were still given a chance to Live sex
were satisfied in the real world!
Of course, there are a lot of disappointed ones: for example, the aforementioned threesome sex. But Dr. Lemiller noted that "the majority of those surveyed said that pursuing sexual fantasies in life was either a positive experience or a more rewarding experience than they expected and that the experience improved their relationship." So dare and fear nothing!